Dark vs Light?

I am dark skinned and my bf is light skinned. She had a conv. w/ some one that was dark skinned and they told her about her romantic issuses as an elementeray / middle schooler vice a high schooler/college student. She talked about how she felt like her darker skin was the reason that she did not have a boy friend ect. My bf called me b/c she did not think that I felt the same way. I told her told her yes i did and she told me that was news to her. Just F.M.I how many of you darker skinned people exprinced this. and what was the moment that you realized that That you were not in style or back in style?